Guilt as a carer

Guilt as a carer āHowās mum Lou?ā Pops into my inbox several times. Often, itās too much to even think about. The answer isnāt going to be good. Every time. Those who mum talks to think she sounds the same. She doesnāt have an awareness of how the clock is ticking for her. Likely a good thing right? Well letās face it, dementia and heart failure is only going in one direction and Iām nothing if pragmatic. Which means, I deal with things without my head buried in the sand. Right now, my head IS buried in the sand. So, heart failure means the heart isnāt pumping as it should. Mum has diastolic dysfunction. Which means it isnāt filling up as it should. The blood can only back up into the lungs, creating a cough. Initially I explained this to mum. Yet she now says, āOhh got a bit of phlegm.ā Or āOhh silly tickle.ā And thereās not much point keep telling her. Why? To create panic? Whatās the po...